Your Own Personal Style
Debi Chapman
Did you know you have a personal style of mothering unique only to you? It’s true, you were specifically designed to mother your own children.
Dear Mama, Make it your quest to learn who you are and become secure in your own mothering journey.
I am still surprised the Lord chose me to mother our children. With little background in nurturing other people, He gifted me with a houseful of children to love and care for. Over the years we had many one-way conversations – me and God. I reminded Him how I was not cut out for this job – it was too big and I was under-qualified. His response…
“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” II Corinthians 12:9
The truth is – we all fall short in our own strength.
We know our weaknesses well, but we each have natural gifts we may be overlooking. Gifts are God’s grace to us to show His strength in us.
Here’s an idea: Ask a few friends what your strengths are. What sets you apart from the norm? Friends see us differently than we see ourselves and may be more objective than our own family members. Ask a friend – you’ll be encouraged to learn you have more natural ability for mothering than you realize.
Next, focus on your strengths and enjoy your natural gifts, while asking God to work on your weak areas.
My weakness was in self-discipline, but my strengths were passion and vision. Through prayer with the use of planners, calendars, and personal development tools I eventually grew to develop the disciplines I once longed for.
With perseverance, over time, we begin to see a rhythm of energy unique only to ourselves.
Always, avoid the trap of comparison and keep focused. Eventually, you’ll develop skills that carry you down the path of mothering, with the grace and strength you long for – in your own personal style.
But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the exceeding greatness of the power may be of God, and not from ourselves… II Corinthians 4:8-9
Debi is convinced our homes are the battlefields for society. She counts it a privilege to encourage mothers to stay the course and embrace the daily – for the sake of Christ.
As a college student, Debi asked the Lord to send her to the front lines of ministry. Armed with a newfound devotion to Christ and a Child Development background, Debi married her college sweetheart. Together they began to dream of what a family could become.
Thirty-six years later, Tim and Debi have eleven children, six grandchildren, and lives filled with front-line battle scars and victories beyond measure.
Presently, Debi has a houseful of teenagers in DFW and three sons in college. Her desire is to leave footprints for those who follow, and impart grace to mothers of all ages. Debi blogs at www.debichapman.com, can be found on social media, and speaks when invited – but her favorite place on earth, is home.
