When You Feel Out of Your League
By Cindi McMenamin
Do you ever have those days when you doubt your abilities as a mom?
I remember feeling way out of my league as a mom – especially when my daughter hit the teenage years.
I was still trying to figure out how to instill healthy values in her, how to enforce the rules in our home, and how to be reasonable, not legalistic, when it came to listening to her, even if what she wanted to do or wear was not my personal preference.
So many times I found myself saying, “I’m still trying to figure this out. I’ve never been a mom to a teenager before.”
Now THAT must have given her an extra dose of confidence in me!
Looking back on those years now, Dana wasn’t really a challenge at all. I was just trying to be the best mom I could and felt like I was failing through most of it.
Oh, how I wish I knew back then what I know now…
Now that my Dana is 22 years old and has turned into quite a lovely lady, I realize that half of what freaked me out wasn’t so important in the long run. I was comparing myself to other moms who were in different situations than me. I was feeling imperfect based on a set of expectations that were mine, not my child’s. And I was failing to remember that God had appointed me to be my child’s mother because He knew how desperately I’d need to depend on Him to get me through. And, God was faithful every step of the way.
Parenting can be scary when we see our children make choices we wouldn’t have made, when they start walking a path that looks uncertain to us, or when they no longer want our opinion or watchful eye on them. We struggle through the memory of them clinging to our legs, only to see them running with all their might to get away from our arms. And yet…the God who made you mother of each of your children didn’t make a mistake. He knew exactly what you were capable — and incapable — of. And He stands ready to be your Right Hand Man as soon as you call to Him for help.
In Psalm 16:8, David the Psalmist said “I have set the Lord always before me. Because he is at my right hand, I will not be shaken.”
Have you ever thought about that? God is at your right hand, too, whispering wisdom, offering comfort, and providing peace just when you need it. And for those times you don’t feel qualified? Call upon your Right Hand Man.
In James 1:5 we are told:
“ If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”
That tells me that our Right Hand Man is waiting to help us, generously, and without finding fault in what we’re doing. When you’re mothering and feeling out of your league, that is priceless.
When you are depending on God to get through whatever lies ahead in parenting God has you right where He wants you to be. Cling to Him. It is there you’ll find wisdom, direction, support, comfort, and most all, your sanity.
Cindi McMenamin is a national women’s conference speaker and author of numerous books, including the best-selling When Women Walk Alone (more than 120,000 copies sold), When a Woman Inspires Her Husband and When a Mom Inspires Her Daughter. For more information on her books or ministry, or for free resources to strengthen your soul, marriage or parenting, see her website: www.StrengthForTheSoul.com.