When You Don’t Feel Supported On THM
By Meggan Larson
We’ve all been there haven’t we? Your spouse, best friend, bible study group etc. isn’t on plan. Not only that, but they almost seem to try and derail your success with their eating habits. Your hubby brings sweets home from the store, your bestie begs you to go out to dinner somewhere and then whines and complains if you won’t split that loaf of bread with her, or you show up at bible study and every single piece of food there is laden with sugar. So what do you do?
You really have two choices in those situations…
The first choice is to let them derail your success and then blame the circumstances for your failures. That’s pretty easy to do, especially at first. You go ahead and eat those sweets because they were too tempting for you. You split the loaf of bread with her because you’d rather not have that argument right then and there. You have a small piece of cake because you don’t want to be rude or worse – the only person in the room not eating dessert! Eventually though you’ll become resentful. They may not care about the extra weight they’re carrying but you do. They may not even have extra weight to lose! But you do. Eventually you’ll go through the motions of eating off plan food just because it’s there and it’s easier to just go along with it than to make a stand. That’s one choice.
The other choice is to say no. Say no to the sweets and make your own sugar free dessert instead (already having it made is even better). Say no to the bread and ask your best friend to help you instead of hinder you. She’s your best friend! She’ll understand. And if she doesn’t, well it might be time to get a new bestie. And as for those times there is literally nothing on plan for you to eat at a get together? Bring your own or eat a big meal before you go so that you can genuinely say you’re not hungry. There is nothing wrong with refusing to eat sugar. I’m not proposing you fake an allergy but this is honestly how my conversation goes with people.
Me ~ “Oh no thank you, I don’t eat sugar.”
Them ~ “What do you mean?”
Me ~ “I don’t eat sugar.”
Them ~ “I don’t understand. Are you allergic?”
Me ~ “No, but I react badly to it.”
Them ~ “How so?”
Me ~ “I get fat.”
Them ~ “Laughs”
Me ~ “Yeah, so I just don’t eat it anymore. I was tired of feeling that way ya know?”
It usually opens up a good dialogue about sugar and the THM lifestyle and how yummy the food is while losing weight. Dare to be the one that doesn’t go with the flow. Don’t be scared that people will sit back and judge you! How grateful are you for the person who told you about THM? Be THAT person to someone else! And frankly if people are going to judge you for becoming healthier and doing your best to make good choices for yourself then that is their issue, not yours. We don’t need to fake a medical condition to bring our own food and not consume what we know is going to go straight to our hips/butt/legs/stomach, etc, etc.
Just be honest! And don’t leave your success up to someone else. YOU are the only one who can make these choices for you. Only you can avoid derailing your success because unless someone has a gun to your head, you don’t have to go off plan if you don’t want to.
~ Meggan 🙂
ps…As always I’d love to hear from you so if you have any questions or comments please comment below or email me at Meggan@thelaundrymoms.com
Meggan Larson is a wife, mom of three, and challenge overcomer! Being diagnosed with a rare form of cancer and undergoing aggressive chemotherapy when her second born child was only three months old, gave Meggan an expected twist to her life. Dealing with pregnancy weight gain and the debilitating effects of chemotherapy, Meggan’s weight soared to over 228 pounds. Feeling humiliated with no desire to socialize, Meggan was desperate for a change. Shortly after losing 20 pounds with the Trim Healthy Mama program, Meggan found out she was pregnant with baby number three, which ended in an emergency C-section and unexpected hysterectomy. Despite the challenges she faced, Meggan has just celebrated her one year “trimiversary”, and her success of releasing just over 60 pounds! Meggan is confident that her success on plan is “doable” for anyone looking to gain back their health and wanting to live a trim and healthy lifestyle!