What’s the Big Deal about Sex?
by Terri Bonin
Well, first, the world revolves around it! Literally! The world would cease to exist in about 100 years without sex, but it’s more than that. It adds an element of life that we crave, an emotion that awakens us. Have you ever seen a James Bond movie with your husband? If not, there’s a possibility you live in a hole or might be dead, so let’s go with a yes and continue. Would any of the 26 James Bond movies be as intense without the music? No! The music piles on the excitement! Drums up anticipation! Stirs in extra thrills! Not relating? Let’s try a more feminine example: The Sound of Music. What if The Sound of Music was changed to A Story of a Large Family Escaping the Nazi’s… with NO MUSIC?! It would be closer to a dry documentary than a heartwarming story of love and survival. Movies would be dull without music. And a marriage without great sex is akin to a movie without music. Blah!
Marriage and sex go together like coffee and hot! Who wants lukewarm coffee each morning? Ugh! Give me hot!
Marriage and sex need each other like…
a bright sunny day needs a cool breeze to relieve the heat. All sun and no breeze make for a scorching experience. Throw a breeze into the air and the earth sings!
Do you get the point? An exciting sex life makes a marriage sweeter, but somehow the importance of it frequently gets lost in a marriage. Jennifer Flanders says, “Sex does for a marriage what good landscaping does for a house – it adds beauty and protects the foundation.”
Think about the landscaping around your home. If you give it attention and love, then it blooms with beauty each season. Neglected landscaping becomes a pain in the neck because of the weeds, ant beds, and vines that need uprooting. A neglected tree within landscaping can actually break the foundation of a house! Sex within marriage IS similar to this landscaping. It needs consistent attention to bloom into full beauty and protect the foundation. Consistent is the key word in the above sentence. Sex is better when it’s consistent. Keeping a ball rolling is easier than stopping and starting it.
If you don’t love sex with your spouse, decide right now to change that! You CAN begin to love it, even crave it! I promise! You married each other, so there must be something in the relationship to work with. I say start with sex!
If your get up and go has gotten up and left, you might try a few drops of the essential oil blend Shutran, for increasing desire in both you and your husband!
The other day I was pushing my toddler in a basket around Walmart and she asked (rather loudly I thought), “Mom, do you have superpowers?” Her question took me off guard. What’s this about? I thought. Superpowers? Me?
She answered herself without missing a beat, “Dad says you do!”
Ha! The root of the question reveals itself. I’m glad he thinks so. I’ll take that compliment any day! And the funny thing is I know exactly why he thinks I have superpowers.
Thank you very much. ?
~Terri
*The excerpt was taken from Terri’s new book “Drops of Pleasure“, where you can find more insight on married sex and recipes to take your love life from ho-hum to off the charts WOW!
Meet Terri Bonin, the author of 31 Days to Fit, 14 Days to Ignite Your Marriage, and Live, Laugh, Love and Laundry. Terri’s 23 year union with her favorite dentist (her husband), has been prosperous in their prolific production of 10 darling children. She also holds a degree in nutritional counseling which seems to be most frequently used to persuade her children to eat their greens. Terri’s secret pleasure is sneaking away from juggling the daily tasks, homeschooling, and dating her husband to escape to her office to write for her own enjoyment. As you can imagine she has a LOT to write about!
