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What I’m Single??

What I’m single?? After being married for 15 years and having 4 kids??

This was hard for me to get use to and I didn’t like it!  I enjoyed being married!  I tried to “save” my marriage for 7 years and that was like beating a dead horse! What happened in my marriage and the details of the struggles would take a while to tell the story, and one day may need to be put in a book! After taking the advice from my mentor and a lot of praying I knew that divorce was my only option.

"single mom" "divorce" "single parent" "Transition" So when I became a single parent, one of the greatest struggles (now this is only one struggle, believe me their have been many) I had to deal with was being alone, especially when my kids were not here on weekends due to visitation.  Wow, was that hard and I wasn’t expecting the struggles that I faced with that.  Now don’t get me wrong I’ve always enjoyed having some me time but when your not use to a long weekend alone, it can be tough.

So one problem I faced was that all my friends were married.  They spent all their weekends with their families and I felt like a third wheel at times,  so that wasn’t an option.  Some of the girlfriends I had during my marriage, had actually betrayed me and I chose to end those unhealthy relationships, …so that was out.

I was having a hard time with what to do with myself?  So I began doing things that I hadn’t had time to do while I was busy with my married life.  I began focusing on myself a little more.  So on some of those long weekends I did some healthy cleanses and juicing fasts, because those are really hard to do when kids are around and I’m always having to cook for them.  I began reading all the books that I had been meaning to get to.  I rented movies that I wanted to see, I didn’t have anyone around to give me their opinion… so I watched whatever cheesy girly movie I wanted.  I went to the mall with a friend and got a makeover at the make-up counter.  Their are still a few things that I haven’t gotten around to…like the furniture I want to paint, but I’m sure there is a weekend in my future for that!

One last thing that I did that was most important was I began counseling which has been a very important part of my healing.  I recommend this for
anyone going through a divorce.  It will not only help you but will help your children see a healthy mom.

So these are a few things that I have done to help me through my transition.

If you are a single parent and have had problems transitioning into single life, I understand and want you to know that it will get better!

 

Laundry Mom~Melanie ♥

 

 

*If your going through a difficult situation and need prayer, please feel free to contact me at Melanie@TheLaundryMoms.com

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2 comments on “What I’m Single??

  1. Thank you for sharing. You are modeling for your kids by continuing to grow during these lonely times and not falling into self pity. I just celebrated with one of my single mom friends as she graduated from nursing school. Her due diligence, giving heart, and hard work during a very difficult season has been a testimony to her kids and the married couples she is friends with. God will continue to use your as you seek Him.

  2. Wow, thank you for sharing Melanie! That has got to be hard from going to a full house to empty on the weekends. But I’m so glad you were able to do things YOU wanted to with that time and moved on. God bless you!

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