What I’m single?? After being married for 15 years and having 4 kids??
This was hard for me to get use to and I didn’t like it! I enjoyed being married! I tried to “save” my marriage for 7 years and that was like beating a dead horse! What happened in my marriage and the details of the struggles would take a while to tell the story, and one day may need to be put in a book! After taking the advice from my mentor and a lot of praying I knew that divorce was my only option.
So when I became a single parent, one of the greatest struggles (now this is only one struggle, believe me their have been many) I had to deal with was being alone, especially when my kids were not here on weekends due to visitation. Wow, was that hard and I wasn’t expecting the struggles that I faced with that. Now don’t get me wrong I’ve always enjoyed having some me time but when your not use to a long weekend alone, it can be tough.
So one problem I faced was that all my friends were married. They spent all their weekends with their families and I felt like a third wheel at times, so that wasn’t an option. Some of the girlfriends I had during my marriage, had actually betrayed me and I chose to end those unhealthy relationships, …so that was out.
I was having a hard time with what to do with myself? So I began doing things that I hadn’t had time to do while I was busy with my married life. I began focusing on myself a little more. So on some of those long weekends I did some healthy cleanses and juicing fasts, because those are really hard to do when kids are around and I’m always having to cook for them. I began reading all the books that I had been meaning to get to. I rented movies that I wanted to see, I didn’t have anyone around to give me their opinion… so I watched whatever cheesy girly movie I wanted. I went to the mall with a friend and got a makeover at the make-up counter. Their are still a few things that I haven’t gotten around to…like the furniture I want to paint, but I’m sure there is a weekend in my future for that!
One last thing that I did that was most important was I began counseling which has been a very important part of my healing. I recommend this for
anyone going through a divorce. It will not only help you but will help your children see a healthy mom.
So these are a few things that I have done to help me through my transition.
If you are a single parent and have had problems transitioning into single life, I understand and want you to know that it will get better!
*If your going through a difficult situation and need prayer, please feel free to contact me at Melanie@TheLaundryMoms.com