Turn Up the Heat Between the Sheets

Turn Up the Heat Between the Sheets

by Terri Bonin


It’s almost Valentine’s Day y’all and it’s time for married couples to turn up the heat. But what if that’s been an issue for you?  Fear not, I have eleven children so I am well versed in all things sexy. It’s time to let loose and get frisky so here are some tips that will help you do just that.

Sorry in advance if I make you blush…


Sometimes sex just happens. You’re both asleep; a tossed leg lands on a slumbering spouse, then a hand. Then the sleepy couple wakes, the quiet stillness of the house stirs the linked pair, and both realize this is the perfect moment.

The. Perfect. Moment.

This is not the time to hop up and start mixing oils! NO! Have what you want right next to the bed at all times! Dry sex is for desert animals, not humans. Be ready. But avoid the mistake I made one time. Using oils in the bedroom is somewhat of a specialty for me. Oils lay everywhere in our house, so finding one is never a problem. Finding the right one has proven to be the challenge!

One night when the lights were out I reached for Mister and V6, I instead grabbed…

Thieves and OrthoEase! (FIRE!!!!!!!) I have a whole new definition for hot buns. Holy cow! Don’t keep your hot oils on the nightstand.

(* If bad breath is an issue that would keep you from being intimate in the middle of the night, then put Thieves mouthwash in a small 2oz spray bottle and place it on your nightstand. One or two squirts in the mouth and voila…no more dragon’s breath, and you did not have to get up and brush!)

Lavender is the perfect oil for young honeymooners. It’s warm and soothing! It’s the perfect choice for the wife who chills easily without covers. Because Young Living’s lavender vitality is therapeutic, it’s safe to take internally (read: safe for licking…ahem) and actually offers health benefits including its ability to eliminate nervous tension, relieve pain, enhance blood circulation, and treat respiratory problems. Can you imagine getting all those benefits while you’re having sex? When diluted with a carrier oil like V-6 oil, the floral taste is nice.

If there was an ON switch, it might be Ylang Ylang. Diffuse in the room at least 20 minutes before your husband joins you. Rub on your neck, wrists, and ankles, and let him find the smell. Enchanting!!

Mister essential oil blend promotes male hormone balance, stimulates and balances functions of the prostate, and reduces mental fatigue. This one gives both my husband and me strong, confident energy…not like caffeine, but rather a youthful vigor. We love the smell and the way it makes us feel. We both apply it to our wrists during the day. You can use it with V-6 for an all-over-the-body massage, too.

Sensation essential oil blend has a soft, romantic aroma. Its blend is a combination of Ylang-ylang, Geranium, Coriander, Bergamot, and Jasmine. But Sensation oil is so much more than a sensuous smell. It offers health benefits that will keep you coming back for more! The therapeutic properties of Sensation oil support the skin, which makes it perfect for sex in any stage of life.  Thinning skin is part of the aging process (’50’s, 60’s, 70’s, and 80’s), which can make sex painful. If this is the case, enjoy both the aroma and benefits of Sensation oil.

It’s time for you to start playing with oils in the bedroom with your husband. Tell him you want to have more sex, but you need these essential oils for your experiments with him! I bet he won’t argue with you. Enjoy every aspect of your husband’s body as you delve into this new world of marital intimacy with therapeutic essential oils. Turn up the passionate love with your spouse! Be brave, and try new things!  Tell him you want to experiment to see what works for you and know it’s okay to find some things that aren’t your favorite! And by all means… have FUN!

If you have any questions about romance, oils, and/or sex feel free to join our women’s only private Facebook group: Drops of Pleasure… or to get any of the oils I talked about today click here! 


~ Terri

If you’re looking for more “Dr. Mom” wisdom then just text HEALTH to my number 281-747-8467 and I’ll walk you through my favorite tips on natural living for optimal health and wellness for the whole family!



Hi Friend… I’m married to my hubs who also happens to be my favorite dentist! Brace yourself for this next part: We have eleven amazing kiddos, on purpose! Said kids are growing up fast and multiplying now, too! So our family is basically the size of a small city!

I’ve home-schooled our children for 25 years and have several more to go until we graduate our youngest who is nine. I was crunchy before it was cool and used essential oils before it became a fad. Therefore I fill this space with thoughts on marriage, mom hacks, wellness tips, and peeks into our crazy, messy, beautiful life. I hope you find this space happy and helpful!

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