Three Ways to Stay Strong, Not Stressed

 Three Ways to Stay Strong, Not Stressed

By Cindi McMenamin


Stress – whether it’s physical, emotional, relational, or financial – can take its toll on any of us.

But how do you, mom, handle it?

I used to find myself reaching out to my husband or my teenage child to get the relief, encouragement, or support I needed to get through stressful times. But I’ve learned, through the years, that having such expectations on others can backfire.

You and I can push our marriages over the edge if we let our spouses know they are not meeting our emotional needs or expectations at a time when they might be dealing with multiple frustrations as well.

We can also damage our relationships with our children when we expect them to “be there” for us, emotionally, when they might not feel equipped to do what it is we are expecting of them, or respond in a way that will meet our emotional needs.

There have been many times in the past 30 years that I’ve had to make a conscious decision to not lay my expectations on my husband or daughter when I’ve felt particularly stressed, regardless of the source. And as I began to take my troubles and stressful times to God first, I found that I was not only more able and stable to deal with whatever came my way, but I could help others in my family through whatever they were going through, as well.

Today, when stress starts rearing its ugly head in my life, I practice these “Three T’s” on a daily basis to stay strong during difficult times…


1.Tell God First – Sometimes you and I need to vent or just talk aloud about how we’re feeling. But our frustrations can come across as accusations or complaints if we’re not careful. And since it is natural for our spouses — and others who love us —  to try to find the problem and fix it, when we just wanted someone to listen, it’s better to go to God with the venting first. Sure, God already knows what we’re going to say.  (Psalm 139:4 says “Before a word is on my tongue you know it completely, O Lord.”)  But by telling God first all that is on our hearts and minds, He can be the “buffer.” 

2. Trust God’s Promises – The Bible is full of God’s promises about His provision and protection. So when we become troubled about finances, or other issues, we can find comfort just by remembering some of God’s encouraging words to His people.  In Philippians 4:19, Paul says “And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.” And Romans 8:28 tells us “…in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Keep stress sidelined by banking on the promises in the Bible and taking God at His Word.

3. Thank God Constantly — No matter what the situation, there’s always something to be thankful for. One of my friends was discouraged that her husband’s new job didn’t pay as well as his previous one. But some income was better than none. Another friend complained about her teenage son’s disinterest in school and his unwillingness to “apply himself”, yet he was still very interested in his church’s youth group. We can become people of praise with a contagious positive attitude when we obey God’s command in 1 Thessalonians 5:18 to “give thanks in all circumstances.” A thankful spouse, parent, or friend is pleasant to be around.

When we practice these three Ts, our circumstances might not change immediately. But by depending on God — and not solely on others — we can become encouragers, rather than accusers, and we can alleviate the stress in others’ lives, as well as in our own.


cindi headshotCindi McMenamin is a national women’s conference speaker and author of several books, including When Women Walk Alone, (more than 125,000 copies sold), When a Woman Inspires Her Husband, When a Mom Inspires Her Daughter, and her most recent, 10 Secrets to Becoming a Worry-Free Mom. For more on her ministry, books, and resources to strengthen your walk with God and your relationships, see her website: www.StrengthForTheSoul.com.






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