The Five Lies of Motherhood
by Hannah Keeley
Within the past fifty years, motherhood has gone from exaltation to embarrassment. Instead of being proud to claim motherhood as a career, we cower in the corner and mumble out a feeble, “I’m JUST a mom!” Just a mom? Give me a break! This entire mentality wasn’t even present in our culture until recently. The media is a powerful force! It can discredit motherhood with its lies and we just gulp them up like hot doughnuts.
So, what lies are you living?…
Lie #1–You need to take a load off. Have you heard this lie lately? It’s subversive because there is so much truth in it that is being distorted. We see it in magazines, commercials, talk shows…moms are being stretched so thin, trying to do everything under the sun. Sooner or later, there is going to be a straw that breaks the camel’s back. Before it’s too late, mama, you had better take a load OFF! Well, here’s the truth in it. Yes! We often do too much, but think for a second about what we’re doing. What is eating up so much of your time that you can’t do the really important stuff like raise your kids? How many television shows are you watching during a week? How often do you try to beat someone’s high score on a Facebook game? How long do you spend talking on the phone? When today’s culture tells us to take a load off, they mean to drop the kids off somewhere and take time for YOU. I’m ready to tell you that you need to take a load off where it really matters. Find those pointless time wasters that are pulling you away from the family and drop those from your life!
Lie #2–Your job is temporary. I know you’ve heard this one. It’s the lie that our culture tells us over and over. Motherhood is just a little thingee to do for now. So, take a deep breath. You won’t be stuck in this trench forever. It’s the lie that gives you a temporal perspective on the whole family thing. Without even realizing it we begin to focus on relief from our circumstances rather than glorifying in our responsibilities. We begin to believe the lie and think that life will be good ‘..when the little ones finally get in preschool,..when the summer is over and the kids are back in school, ..when the teenagers are finally out of the house,..’ Do you see the danger here? Our culture has us believing that we need to look forward to a day when we finally get our days back! I’m ready to tell you that your job is eternal! The moments you are investing in your family today will build up in time to reward you in ways you could never imagine. THIS is your life and you need to enjoy it NOW. If not here, where? If not now, when?
Lie #3–You could do a lot better. We see this lie everywhere in the media. It’s that twenty-something picture-perfect model with the little kids that seems to have it all together. It’s that stunning actress posing with her family. It’s the business mogul that manages to balance family and a burgeoning business. This is a lie! You cannot serve two masters. One will have your heart and the other gets the leftovers. Our culture has taught us that motherhood is failure…it’s only for those women who didn’t really get a decent education or can’t hold a good job. It’s for women who aren’t creative or don’t have any drive. This is a subtle message but one that certainly has rocked our ships way off course. The lie tells us, “C’mon, mom, really? Couldn’t you do any better than that? Where’s the glory in motherhood?” I’m here to tell you that the glory is inside of you. It’s how you look at the world. When you look at the world through earthly eyes, you see it all extrinsically. Everything is outside. It’s the kind of car you drive or the house you live in. It’s your career title or your circle of friends. But when you look at the world through heavenly eyes, you begin to see it all intrinsically. Everything is inside. It’s the contentment when you hold your baby or the pride when you see your teen succeed. It’s the love that grips your heart and won’t let go. And believe you, me, you cannot do any better than that!
Lie #4–You need fulfillment. Every message that the media delivers to moms is filtered through the “not enough” lie. This is an awesome tactic by the media because it works so well. You can sell anything if you create a need for it. And unfortunately, moms are buying into the lie that we don’t have enough. We need it easier. We need it cheaper. We need it quicker. We need it now! If our culture can convince moms that they need fulfillment, then they have created a huge population of eager shoppers. There’s only one problem here. If things make life easier, then why does it seem to be harder than ever? If things make life cheaper, then why is the average family drowning in debt? If things make life quicker, then why can’t we get enough done in an average day? I’m ready to tell you that fulfillment doesn’t come from without. It comes from within. Until you find fulfillment in your life where you are right now, you’ll never find fulfillment where you’re headed in the future.
Lie #5–You don’t need to take it so seriously. Our modern culture feeds us this lie that motherhood and homemaking is just something you do on the side. And we are now seeing firsthand the results of this belief–broken homes, disparate families, failing marriages, and rebellious kids. And at the heart of it all is a mom who thought she didn’t need to take it so seriously. I mean, it’s not like it’s a real career or something. Well, they’re right about that. It’s not just a career. It’s a calling. When God called you to be a mom, He wasn’t kidding around. I’m ready to tell you this is NOT a job to be taken lightly. This is a career that requires every bit of you and more. It is something you do with your whole heart. Stop believing the lies that our culture feeds us. See through the methods our media uses to discredit motherhood. Do it now before you waste another moment living with less than the best. The world keeps telling moms to do just enough to get by. But God sets a higher standard. He demands excellence. Motherhood is an eternal investment. You may not be able to see it now, but when you give it your all, when you approach this profession with the respect it deserves, when you stand up tall and profess loudly, “Yes! I AM a mom!” then, and only then, will you see the blessings of this consecrated career unfold before you.
Now, it’s your turn. What do you think? Has our culture been handing us lies? Are you believing any of them? I want to hear from you!
Hannah Keeley was once in overwhelmed mom living in a cluttered house, deep in debt, out of shape, and barely hanging on. But one day, after finding herself sobbing uncontrollably into a pile of clean laundry, she realized God has bigger and better plans for her (just like He does for each one of His children). Beginning that day, she began making changes in her life that took her from overwhelmed to overjoyed. Today, she’s helping moms do the same. Hannah, her husband, Blair, and their seven children live in Richmond, Virginia, and are having the time of their lives!