Setting New Years Resolutions You’ll Keep
By Drenda Keesee
The time has come.
The ball has dropped.
It is a new year, and you know what that means…
time for new resolutions!
For years, I made resolutions that I couldn’t stick to.
Did you know that 80% of New Year’s resolutions fail by February according to U.S. News?
Over the years, I’ve learned a few tips that have helped me create AND keep my New Year’s resolutions.
My first tip for coming up with resolutions that stick is to…
What do these have in common?
They are sooooo vague!
When you set out to do something, be specific!
My husband Gary always says, “If you can’t see it, how can you expect to receive it?”
Take a look at these same resolutions after I attach specific actions and goals to each of them.
- Exercise more.
- Go for a mile-long walk three times a week.
- Lose five pounds in the next two months.
- Read more.
- Read one chapter a night.
- Read ten books this year.
By the way, the same goes for prayer.
Don’t just pray for “more” money. What exactly does more money even mean? If you can’t define it, you can’t obtain it.
Instead, pray and believe for specific things: being debt-free, paying cash for a house, being able to save a down payment for a rental property.
First Chronicles 4:10 (NIV) tells us, “Jabez cried out to the God of Israel, ‘Oh, that you would bless me and enlarge my territory! Let your hand be with me, and keep me from harm so that I will be free from pain.’ And God granted his request.”
Does that sound vague? No!
Intention should be at the heart of every action. That means every resolution should have a specific action and the desired goal in mind.
Go HERE for some more great Bible verses on goal setting!
Does It Matter to YOU?
Are your resolutions for the culture or for you?
I mean, are they things that are really important to YOU or things you feel like you “should” be doing?
Your life can’t be about “shoulds” all the time!
Of course, you need to do certain things like paying your bills and doing your taxes, but your life needs to be about more than “should.”
Resolutions are a great chance to evaluate the areas of your life that you would like to improve and set tangible goals to get there.
Think about things you want to experience more of this year like relaxation. Set aside 10 minutes a day to sit down and take a breath. Easy goal, big payoff.
Plus getting yourself into a relaxed mindset will assist you with bigger goals like achieving more at work or moving past a personal or professional conflict.
You may feel like your resolutions are too small like you “should” be achieving something bigger, but success happens one small step at a time!
So, let me ask you again. Are your resolutions things you “should” be doing or things you want to do?
Go HERE for my message, “Staying on the Vision” and receive more inspiration on how to walk out big dreams one step at a time.
The Best Defense
Whether you like it or not, there will be roadblocks for your resolutions, and the best way to prepare for the roadblocks is to create a plan.
We have all heard the saying, “The best defense is a good offense.”
For example, say your resolution is to lose weight by giving up fast food, and you know you have a business trip coming up.
Do you see a potential problem???
One key to success in anything is being honest with yourself about challenges you might face!
Let’s be real; trips are a great excuse to let good eating habits go out the window.
I can’t cook for myself. What am I supposed to do, starve?
It’s impossible to eat healthy on the road.
Put down the excuses and start creating an offensive strategy, a plan to help you get ahead of the temptation.
For example, eat a big meal at home before you leave.
Pack lots of healthy snacks for the plane.
Research healthy, affordable eating around your hotel.
Planning your way through the obstacles will improve your chances of having successful resolutions!
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Drenda Keesee’s contagious zeal and humorous personal experiences help make her ministry of spiritual, emotional and relational wholeness one that will bless your life and spark a new fire in your spirit.
A wife of over 30 years and a mother of five children, Drenda has ministered at churches, seminars, and conferences, and through the mediums of television and radio, for more than 20 years.
Her books, The New Vintage Family, Better Than You Think, and She Gets It are available wherever books are sold. In these heartfelt books, Drenda shares her personal journey and the life lessons that have brought her to where she is today, as well as practical answers that all people need to live a joyful life.
Drenda and her husband Gary founded Faith Life Now, a ministry designed to spread the message of freedom in the areas of finances, faith, marriage, and family. Tune in for their weekly messages here. Faith Life Now hosts conferences worldwide, and sponsors both Fixing the Money Thing, which Drenda co-hosts with her husband Gary, and Drenda.
Through their own life experiences, the Keesees have found the principles from God’s Word to be powerful and effective. At one point, Drenda was a young, suicidal feminist with no hope of ever being “good enough” for her own standards of perfection. She never wanted the “inconvenience” of a husband or children, and she was on her own path to success. But the stress of trying to achieve perfection and perform for love left her broken and used. She had success, but it was nothing compared to the pain and loneliness it had also brought.
That’s when God got a hold of her heart. It was there—at her lowest point—that she found the One who accepted and loved her, faults and all. Since that transformation, Drenda has had a passion to reach women who find themselves where she once was.
She married Gary after attending college, and there she found herself in a personal boot camp of sorts. She says, “I cried and told God, ‘I can do anything but be a wife and mother.’” She committed to learning how to do it God’s way. Through the many years of raising their children and struggling to make ends meet, Drenda learned from their mistakes. “I didn’t know how to be a wife and mother, but God saved our marriage, taught us how to parent our children for success, showed us how to have financial success, and then irony of all ironies, He called us to ministry.” It’s truly because of these life experiences that Drenda can now share so many insightful principles for people who are now going through the same struggles.