Real Romance is Alive and Well
by Rhonda Stoppe
I just love a good love story, don’t you? My new book Real Life Romance is jammed packed with amazing love stories. As I wrote about some incredible couples who God sovereignly brought together in His timing and for His purpose, I was in awe to discover how intricately involved God is in our love stories––if we let Him.
As a mom, I remember aching for each of my kids to fall in love with someone who loved Jesus even more than they loved my child. Sound weird? Not really, think about it. If the one your child marry’s loves Christ with all of his being, then there will be a natural outpouring of God’s selfless love from their heart onto their spouse.
As my children grew up I often caught myself dreaming of…
…what God could do through them if they fully surrendered to Christ. And for their marriages, my prayer was answered as one by one our children met and married their spouses. (I got to include each of their love stories in my new book––how fun is that?)
Even now my husband and I pray that through the marriages of our children God will accomplish extraordinary feats in their generation. Wouldn’t you love this to be the legacy of your love story, and your kids love story as well?
As I wrote this new book, I laughed, I cried, and it reminded of how God had providentially brought my husband and me together so many years ago. Remembering your own love story is a great way to rekindle your affection for your spouse.
Do you remember when:
-You couldn’t wait for him to notice you?
-He could take your breath away with a smile or a wink?
-You made every effort to look your best to capture his attention?
-You looked for opportunities to flirt with him and make him feel special?
-You promised to be the best wife to him for the rest of his life?
So, what has changed? Why is it we allow life to get in the way of our passion for the one we promised to love, honor and cherish for the rest of our lives? And what can you do to rekindle the romance you once had for your spouse?
Why not take some time to remember the details of your own love story and then write it out in a journal. As you write think about what your kids or even grandkids might learn about you when they one day read your story.
Then, ask God to help you love your husband more today than yesterday––with His selfless love. Your kid’s generation is aching to believe that love lasts a lifetime. Won’t you work to show them how knowing Christ makes all the difference in building a marriage without regrets? Let your marriage to be a beacon of Christ’s love to your generation.
If you are a follower of Christ, you may be surprised to learn that the number one thing on God’s agenda for you–and your marriage, is not that you live “happily-ever-after” as many believe is the goal of a happy marriage.
But rather, your marriage will experience true happiness when you realize, God created you to bring glory to His great Name. Through the good times, and the bad, does your marriage glorify Christ? Listen to what God says is His purpose for creating you:
Everyone who is called by my name
…I created for my glory
Created for God’s glory––What does that mean? The word glory in this passage means to reflect or magnify. In other words, if you are a Believer you’ve been created to live in a way that draws others to God as they see His character lived out in your life– beginning with your children if you have them.
In 18 years of youth ministry along side of my youth pastor husband, the number one issue that pushed teens, who grew up in the church, away from God was the hypocrisy of their Christian parents. More specifically, when their parent’s marriages were “secretly” in conflict.
You know what I’m talking about…Mom and Dad have a big blow up in the car on the way to church, but then they put on their “everything’s just fine” faces when they arrive. Kids are not only sickened by this display of hypocrisy, but it is one of the main reasons why 75% of teens leave the church after they graduate from high school.
You are writing your own love story for your kids to read.
You see, your children are watching you to see if what you say you believe makes a difference in your life––and your marriage. If your kids observe strife and daily conflict between you and your spouse, don’t be surprised if they grow up to reject your faith.
When you realize that God brought you together with your husband for the purpose of reflecting Christ’s character to this generation, it will help you understand the importance of drawing near to Christ so that He can love through you with His perfect, selfless love.
You will be happy to discover the deeper your love for God grows, the more deeply He will love your husband through you, and in this, you will find the secret to true happiness in marriage.
And don’t feel left out if you are married to a man who does not know Christ, or does not lead your family to follow the Lord. In my new book, you will be happy to read the love stories of a number of women who were married to ungodly men, yet God used to these women to shine brightly for Christ in their generation.
Remember, the key to experiencing fulfillment in your marriage does not lie in how well your husband measures up to your expectations, but in how well you love God.
Watch for Real Life Romance to publish in February 2018, just in time for Valentine’s Day.
BONUS: If you preorder the Real Life Romance, and write a review before January 30th and email me proof of purchase/review and I’ll email you a link to a free copy of my ebook: A Christian Woman’s Guide to Great Sex in Marriage.)
Rhonda Stoppe is the NO REGRETS WOMAN. Rhonda is an evangelist who meets women at the point of their desperation and shows them the way to Christ. I could have listened to Rhonda talk all night is what audiences say at her No Regrets Woman Evangelism Conference. Since 1990 Rhonda has helped women break free from the regrets that hold them back by guiding them toward practical ways to build a life with no regrets.
To learn more about Rhonda’s messages and to book her for your next women’s event visit her at: NoRegretsWoman.com
Rhonda’s books (Harvest House Publishers):
–The Marriage Mentor (to release 2018)