Motivation Through Love
By Meggan Larson
Last week I ended my article with the line “You’ve gotta love yourself where you’re at but also love yourself enough to help your body be healthy.” Little did I know that would be the topic for this week’s article. My precious friend Carmen O’Quinn was just declared the beachbody challenge winner and she won $100,000. She lost 161lbs in 13 months working out daily and reducing her portion sizes etc. It’s been an amazing transformation to witness and she has inspired so many people. It was one of those people who wrote something so profound this week that I just had to share it with you.
She posted on FB…
That even though Carmen had lost 161lbs she has still kept all of the pictures of her life before her transformation instead of taking them down and pretending they didn’t exist. She loved herself and her life and her weight loss was motivated by a strong love instead of a hatred for her body.
She wanted to protect her children from becoming obese since statistically kids with obese parents are way more likely to struggle with their weight (love). She was motivated by a strong desire to be a better wife and mom (love). She wasn’t motivated by how horrible she thought she looked in the mirror (for the record I’ve always found her beautiful). But how many of us ARE motivated by that reflection? How many of us are body shaming ourselves on a daily basis telling our reflection to get it together and stop messing up?
One of my favorite quotes is the one that says “I wish I were as fat as I was the first time I thought I was fat”. The first time I worried about a little cellulite I was maybe 120lbs. I would LOVE to be back there but at the time I didn’t realize the path I was getting onto and that at each increment where I cringed at a picture of myself or sighed in the mirror I was speaking death over myself.
Most of us won’t have long term success if we are motivated by hatred. I think that can be said of most anything in life. We need to be motivated by love ~ whether that love is for ourselves, our spouse, our children, Jesus, etc. If we let ourselves be motivated by hatred then that will always be under the surface waiting to come out. We will always be comparing ourselves to others, feeling like a failure, or worse ~ only feeling like a success if we maintain the weight loss. If it starts to creep back up then we automatically revert to hating ourselves.
Friends this is not the love we should have for ourselves. Is this how you would treat a friend struggling with weight? Of course not! So forgive yourself, love yourself, and go to the beach with your kids IN a bathing suit because they’re not going to remember how big you think you were anyway. They’re just going to remember that amazing day at the beach with their mom.
~ Meggan 🙂
ps…As always I’d love to hear from you so if you have any questions or comments please comment below or email me at Meggan@thelaundrymoms.com
Meggan Larson is a wife, mom of three, and challenge overcomer! Being diagnosed with a rare form of cancer and undergoing aggressive chemotherapy when her second born child was only three months old, gave Meggan an expected twist to her life. Dealing with pregnancy weight gain and the debilitating effects of chemotherapy, Meggan’s weight soared to over 228 pounds. Feeling humiliated with no desire to socialize, Meggan was desperate for a change. Shortly after losing 20 pounds with the Trim Healthy Mama program, Meggan found out she was pregnant with baby number three, which ended in an emergency C-section and unexpected hysterectomy. Despite the challenges she faced, Meggan has just celebrated her one year “trimiversary”, and her success of releasing just over 60 pounds! Meggan is confident that her success on plan is “doable” for anyone looking to gain back their health and wanting to live a trim and healthy lifestyle!