It’s Ok to NOT…Treasure Every Moment
By Meggan Larson
I’m going to switch hats for just a moment from weight loss to motherhood but I promise I’ll tie it together in the end. If you’re a mom, especially of littles, you’ve likely been told to “treasure every moment” because they pass by so fast. It’s usually been said by a well-meaning mature parent who, in the wisdom of their age, realizes how quickly the time passed them by. I’m sure it’s meant to help, I’m sure it’s meant to encourage…but it doesn’t.
Do you want to know what it actually does to mamas of little ones?…
…it piles on the mom guilt.
My five-year-old son has been regularly coming into my room for snuggles at 3 am. I didn’t want to send him away because I had those thoughts running through my head spoken over me by a well-meaning grandmother at church. “Treasure every snuggle because someday they won’t want to snuggle you anymore”. So here I am getting my sleep interrupted at 3 am almost every night because I should be treasuring every moment. By not getting well rested I was then grumpy throughout the entire day dreaming about a nap instead of spending quality time with my kids.
So I took a stand a couple of weeks ago. He came in, asked for a snuggle, and I said no. (I’m currently bracing myself for backlash from the retirement community). That’s right mamas!
I. Said. No.
I sent him back to bed (with a hug and kiss) and guess what? He went back to sleep. The same thing happened the next night, and the night after that, and then one magical morning I woke up and realized that no one had interrupted my sleep! Imagine my shock when my son came into my room after 7 am and asked for a snuggle (to which I happily agreed to FYI).
It’s not realistic to treasure every moment. I don’t treasure explosive diarrhea, or vomiting, or staying up all night listening to a croupy cough. I am not loving the season of rebellion my youngest is currently in, or the state of my house as a result. I’m not treasuring the fact that by the end of the day I’d rather just eat cereal for dinner than bother making myself a healthy meal. I have to force myself to do it because I have goals but dang, it’s not easy.
Yes, there are aspects that I love and adore and I have chosen to spend every moment of my day with my kids because I genuinely love them and their company. Telling a mom to treasure EVERY moment makes that mom feel like a bad mom. It makes them feel like they’re not doing enough, or loving motherhood as much as others are. In this day and age where comparison is robbing so many of joy, be different. Make that mama a beautiful salad and drop it off because I can tell you they’re likely struggling to get the weight off and it’s a heavy burden physically and emotionally. If their house is a mess admit that yours was too in the thick of things and offer to help!
If you’re a mom of littles right now I have this to say to you… You are doing an amazing job. Are your kids fed, clothed, and healthy? You’re winning at motherhood. I don’t care what your house looks like, if your garden is overgrown with weeds, and clean laundry is all over your living room couch. This is a busy season of life and you can’t expect to have it all together. Treasure the moments you can, do your best to stay on track with your health goals, and at the end of the day know that you’re doing your best and guess what?
~ Meggan 🙂
p.s. As always I’d love to hear from you so if you have any questions or comments please comment below or email me at Meggan@thelaundrymoms.com
Meggan Larson is a wife, mom of three, and challenge overcomer! Being diagnosed with a rare form of cancer and undergoing aggressive chemotherapy when her second born child was only three months old, gave Meggan an expected twist to her life. Dealing with pregnancy weight gain and the debilitating effects of chemotherapy, Meggan’s weight soared to over 228 pounds. Feeling humiliated with no desire to socialize, Meggan was desperate for a change. Shortly after losing 20 pounds with the Trim Healthy Mama program, Meggan found out she was pregnant with baby number three, which ended in an emergency C-section and unexpected hysterectomy. Despite the challenges she faced, Meggan has just celebrated her one year “trimiversary”, and her success of releasing just over 60 pounds! Meggan is confident that her success on plan is “doable” for anyone looking to gain back their health and wanting to live a trim and healthy lifestyle!