Intimacy & Weight
By Meggan Larson
Hands up if you have an amazing husband who tells you you’re beautiful no matter what you weigh? And hands up if no matter how many times he tells you that, you still struggle with letting him see alllllllll of you? I get it mama. After three pregnancies, cancer, chemotherapy, steroids, etc my body is not where I want it to be: not by a long shot.
The insecure part of me wants to hide away until I’m at goal weight but…
That would not serve my husband well. The truth is, he really doesn’t notice! It took me so long to realize this truth but it is 100% accurate. He is still completely attracted to me because he adores me. He loves every inch of me regardless of what I weigh. When you’re intimate with your husband often, it’s an incredible blessing to him.
I’ll get a little raw with you for a minute. My husband and I were stuck in a cycle of offence for a while. He would say or do something that hurt my feelings and I would withhold intimacy as a result. It wasn’t super intentional on my part, it was just the natural consequence of holding onto offence. I don’t know any woman who is in the mood while being angry with her husband (though somehow men seem to be unaffected by this??). The longer this would go on, the more frustrated he would become (understandably), and the easier it would be for him to say something in anger which would continue the frustrating cycle.
I had to realize that I was letting myself get offended because the truth was I was embarrassed about getting intimate with him and this was an easy out. Once I finally let myself believe the truth of his words (that he was truly attracted to me no matter what), I was able to let down my guard and just be me. I’m not saying this happens overnight; I’ve been married for 10 years! But hopefully, you won’t take quite as long as I did to understand. If you’ve been in the same kind of cycle then I challenge you to shake it up ~ especially with Valentine’s Day being on Wednesday! Send him a sexy text, initiate intimacy for once, and enjoy the closeness you were meant to experience.
If you would like a private invite to the ladies only Intimacy & Oils Facebook party happening Tuesday night at 7:30 pm CST please join our private class group here! You can come in your pj’s in the privacy and comfort of your own home and learn more about having a healthy happy sex life with your husband! It’s G-rated and still chocked full of great information and tips!
~ Meggan 🙂
p.s. As always I’d love to hear from you so if you have any questions or comments please comment below or email me at Meggan@thelaundrymoms.com
Meggan Larson is a wife, mom of three, and challenge overcomer! Being diagnosed with a rare form of cancer and undergoing aggressive chemotherapy when her second born child was only three months old, gave Meggan an expected twist to her life. Dealing with pregnancy weight gain and the debilitating effects of chemotherapy, Meggan’s weight soared to over 228 pounds. Feeling humiliated with no desire to socialize, Meggan was desperate for a change. Shortly after losing 20 pounds with the Trim Healthy Mama program, Meggan found out she was pregnant with baby number three, which ended in an emergency C-section and unexpected hysterectomy. Despite the challenges she faced, Meggan has just celebrated her one year “trimiversary”, and her success of releasing just over 60 pounds! Meggan is confident that her success on plan is “doable” for anyone looking to gain back their health and wanting to live a trim and healthy lifestyle!