How to Balance Your Life for Success
By Drenda Keesee
One of the number one questions I get asked is how I balance my work, marriage, family, and personal life.
I’m not surprised! One of the biggest struggles as a mother is prioritizing your time! It can be difficult to balance time with your children, invest in your marriage, enjoy personal pursuits, and find time with God. As a mother, how can you manage it all?
“Nobody is too busy; it’s just a matter of priorities.” —Anonymous
This is where so many parents miss it! They lose sight of their priorities, and in turn, their lives turn to chaos.
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HERE ‘s the list…
1. God First.
God should be your and your family’s number one priority. No matter what.
Psalm 127:1 says, “Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the guards stand watch in vain.” I had the honor of leading many of my children to the Lord by sharing God’s love and plan for salvation with them. I tried to teach them Scriptures each week and help them learn about God. We attended church every week so they could learn more about God and loving His church. I realized early on that if we consistently put sporting events or ballet classes in front of God and attending church, we’re demonstrating that as a priority over God to our children.
2. Respect for Your Spouse.
Love and respect for your spouse is the priority next to God. A lot of parents miss this because they place their children over their marriages. When you place your children over the health of your marriage, you actually damage both in the long run!
Your marriage lays a foundation for your children.
Whether you respect your spouse or you talk negatively about them lays a foundation for your children. If you’re undermining your spouse’s authority or disrespecting them in front of your kids, you can expect the same behavior from your children toward your spouse, yourself, and other people in authority. The example you set in your marriage demonstrates to your children what they should look for in a marriage of their own.
Ask yourself: What kind of foundation do I want to set through my marriage?
3. Honor Family.
When Gary and I went into ministry, I had a wrong perception about where the family fit. I saw so many ministry families in shambles, and I thought that ministry meant sacrificing time with my children. I prayed, “God, I want to serve you through ministry, but I can’t give up my children.” I’ll never forget what God told me. “I never asked you to.” When you realize how sacred your family is to God, you understand how important it is that you fight for your family.
God wants you to fight for your family—it’s biblical!
He created your family to bless you, not to curse you. God loves families, and He wants to work through them to change nations, as He did with Abraham’s family, Noah’s family, and Mary and Joseph’s family! Family is a powerful thing. That’s why Satan hates families, and that’s why you have to protect your family time!
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Drenda Keesee’s contagious zeal and humorous personal experiences help make her ministry of spiritual, emotional and relational wholeness one that will bless your life and spark a new fire in your spirit.
A wife of over 30 years and a mother of five children, Drenda has ministered at churches, seminars, and conferences, and through the mediums of television and radio, for more than 20 years.
Her books, The New Vintage Family, Better Than You Think, and She Gets It are available wherever books are sold. In these heartfelt books, Drenda shares her personal journey and the life lessons that have brought her to where she is today, as well as practical answers that all people need to live a joyful life.
Drenda and her husband Gary founded Faith Life Now, a ministry designed to spread the message of freedom in the areas of finances, faith, marriage, and family. Tune in for their weekly messages here. Faith Life Now hosts conferences worldwide, and sponsors both Fixing the Money Thing, which Drenda co-hosts with her husband Gary, and Drenda.
Through their own life experiences, the Keesees have found the principles from God’s Word to be powerful and effective. At one point, Drenda was a young, suicidal feminist with no hope of ever being “good enough” for her own standards of perfection. She never wanted the “inconvenience” of a husband or children, and she was on her own path to success. But the stress of trying to achieve perfection and perform for love left her broken and used. She had success, but it was nothing compared to the pain and loneliness it had also brought.
That’s when God got a hold of her heart. It was there—at her lowest point—that she found the One who accepted and loved her, faults and all. Since that transformation, Drenda has had a passion to reach women who find themselves where she once was.
She married Gary after attending college, and there she found herself in a personal boot camp of sorts. She says, “I cried and told God, ‘I can do anything but be a wife and mother.’” She committed to learning how to do it God’s way. Through the many years of raising their children and struggling to make ends meet, Drenda learned from their mistakes. “I didn’t know how to be a wife and mother, but God saved our marriage, taught us how to parent our children for success, showed us how to have financial success, and then irony of all ironies, He called us to ministry.” It’s truly because of these life experiences that Drenda can now share so many insightful principles for people who are now going through the same struggles.