Great Sex & The Brain

Great Sex & The Brain

by Terri Bonin


Great sex starts in the brain. Yep! Let me prove it. Don’t you find it hard to get naked with your husband when he’s ticked you off and you’re mulling it around in your head? Of course, you do! It’s impossible to give and receive tender caresses to the one you’re seething over! Your brain is furious, and your body revolts against him. Ok! Assume you’re over it. You’ve kissed and made up. A happy truce saved the day. Now you’re enjoying a fun time of intimacy with your man and all of a sudden you remember a project deadline due TOMORROW! BAM! All those happy, warm feelings JET! They book a plane to Mexico and flee your body!

Good sex starts and is controlled by…

Great Sex & The Brain

Your brain!

Prepare your brain. Forget your “To Do” list. Forgive your husband. Decide you want a happy marriage. It all starts here. Make the choice to give and receive kind words and gestures throughout the day. This is where so many marriages fail. A little irritation begrudges a couple from actively pursuing kindness towards each other while the attractive co-worker at the office covers the wounded spouse with kind gestures all day. Even if it’s just part of the job description such as typing letters, running errands, and making appointments, the wounded spouse might begin to desire this kind person in a sexual way because kindness feels good to the soul. Subconsciously the spouse is wondering what other kind ways this co-worker can make him feel good.

It happens every day.

Protect your marriage with the bond of kindness!! There’s a song called The Basics of Life that says, “We need to get back to the basics of life: a heart that is pure and a love that is kind…” The ancient Proverbs speak of kindness:

A man who is kind benefits himself, but a cruel man hurts himself.” (ESV) Proverbs 11:17

What is desirable in a man is his kindness…” (NASB) Proverbs 19:22

What spouse does not want to be desirable? We ALL hope to be desired by our spouses, and maybe we didn’t realize how simple it is to BECOME desirable. Believe it or not, it doesn’t take breast implants, losing weight, or more money to become desirable. I know of some happy, overweight, underpaid couples that have GREAT sex lives because they are kind to each other and make it a priority. It really is that simple.

Try it!

*If you would like a private invite to the ladies-only Intimacy & Oils Facebook party happening tomorrow night, Monday, Feb 12th @ 7 pm CST please join our private group here!

You can come in your pjs in the privacy and comfort of your own home and learn more about having a healthy happy sex life with your husband! It’s G-rated and still chocked full of great information and tips!




*The excerpt was taken from Terri’s book “Drops of Pleasure“, where you can find more insight on married sex and recipes to take your love life from ho-hum to off-the-charts WOW!


Hi Friend… I’m married to my hubs who also happens to be my favorite dentist! Brace yourself for this next part: We have eleven amazing kiddos, on purpose! Said kids are growing up fast and multiplying now, too! So our family is basically the size of a small city!

I’ve home-schooled our children for 25 years and have several more to go until we graduate our youngest who is nine. I was crunchy before it was cool and used essential oils before it became a fad. Therefore I fill this space with thoughts on marriage, mom hacks, wellness tips, and peeks into our crazy, messy, beautiful life. I hope you find this space happy and helpful!

If you’re looking for more “Dr. Mom” wisdom then just text HEALTH to my number 281-747-8467 and I’ll walk you through my favorite tips on natural living for optimal health and wellness for the whole family!

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