Grace for the Undeserving

The Laundry Moms Welcome Jennifer Flanders today as our featured guest writer for our

“31 Days of Grace” series!

Jennifer is a faith-walking, husband-loving, home-schooling, hymn-singing,

deep-thinking, book-writing, hand-crafting, life-savoring mother of twelve.


Check Out Her Amazing Story of God’s Grace Below…


Sometimes showing grace to others is easy.

The person in need of grace is someone we like, someone who is naturally sweet, someone who’s normally very easy to get along with.


Sometimes, though, extending grace is a challenge. Some folks are difficult, demanding, and inconsiderate. Some take advantage of others. Some are disagreeable. Some cut you off in traffic. Some are just plain rude.


They don’t deserve grace, we may think to ourselves…


But, then, neither do we.


Yet grace is exactly what God has given. In fact, He has lavished it upon us (Ephesians 1:7-8).


It is not something we’ve earned. It’s not something we deserve. He gives it freely, because he loves us deeply.


In turn, God expects us to demonstrate that same grace in our dealings with others.


And that includes those cranky, cantankerous, undeserving types, too. Often, they’re the ones who need it the most.


What’s more, we need to demonstrate grace to the “undeserving” or unappreciative, not only for their benefit and blessing, but for our own, as well.


But how do we go about it? How do we extend grace when doing so may be completely out of sync with our natural reaction in a given situation?


Scripture spells it out for us. We do it by praying for God’s help and by following Christ’s example. (Philippians 2:1-15)


G = Grant forgiveness freely


Harboring grudges and resentments doesn’t hurt the target of our bile and bitterness nearly as much as it hurts our own health and wellbeing. We must learn to let things go and move on, for our own sake as well as for the people around us. God has forgiven us an insurmountable debt. So must we forgive others. (Matthew 19:21-35)


R = Remain patient at all times


We shouldn’t allow the words or actions of others to inflame us. Instead, we must stay steady. Think clearly. Remain calm. The Bible teaches that patience is a mark of wisdom (Proverbs 19:11). We are told to “count it all joy” when we encounter trials, knowing that such difficulties mature us and build our patience and endurance. (James 1:2-3)


A = Answer evil with good


We must resist the urge to repay tit for tat. “Getting even” is not a godly mindset, it just escalates and perpetuates the conflict. Instead, we should “bless those that curse you and pray for those who despitefully use you.” (Luke 6:28-29) We should not return evil for evil, but should treat others the way we’d like for them to treat us. (Luke 6:30)


C = Consider others’ viewpoints


There may be contributing factors to their behavior of which you are unaware. Put yourself in their shoes, not to justify another’s wrong actions, but to help you better understand underlying causes so that they can be effectively addressed. Examine your own heart, attitudes, and actions in the matter. Have these contributed to the problem you are facing? If so, ask their forgiveness and do what you can to make amends.


E = Exemplify Christ’s love


“Let everything be done in love.” (1 Corinthians 16:4) Love is our standard. It is patient, kind, and longsuffering. (1 Corinthians 13) We should love, because God first loved us. (1 John 4:19). Love and grace are inseparable.


But showing grace to others does not mean we must sweep problems under the carpet and pretend they don’t exist. Wrongful behavior needs to be addressed, and it may sometimes fall on us to do it (especially for those of us who are mothers with young children still at home). Yet in the midst of addressing such difficulties, we must pray for wisdom, then speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15) with sincere humility.


This is the path grace marks out for us — even when dealing with the most difficult cases — and it is our best hope for resolving conflicts in a way that honors God by communicating His love and grace to those around us.



IMG_038Jennifer Flanders is a faith-walking, husband-loving, home-schooling, hymn-singing, deep-thinking, book-writing, hand-crafting, life-savoring mother of twelve. She blogs at Loving Life at Home about pursuing the high calling of marriage and motherhood with joy, passion, and purpose.



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