Four Areas of a Mom’s Life That Need God’s Touch
By Cindi McMenamin
Do you ever feel like you’re on the edge of a meltdown?
Those are the times when you and I need God’s calming touch.
We are creatures made for touch. Research has shown a person needs to be touched at least three-to-five times daily to feel emotionally healthy and secure. Our children need it, our spouses need it, and we, as moms need it.
But how often do we crave God’s touch on our lives? To steady us. To heal us. To transform us.
As a mom, my need for God’s touch on my life is crucial so that all I think, say, and do, can have a lovely, God-pleasing effect on my children. Yet, I had to ask myself, how desperate am I for God’s touch on my life? There are times I might be desperate to feel and look younger, to be thinner, to have more in the way of peace and happiness. But how desperate am I to reflect God’s likeness and be whole and complete in every way?
As I was writing my book, Women on the Edge, I surveyed nearly 100 women, most of them moms, and found several common areas in which women, myself included, admitted needing God’s touch to be whole and complete. I also found that Scripture addresses these areas of a woman’s life so that we can receive His healing touch and not feel so easily like we’re going to go “over the edge.”
See if you can relate to needing God’s touch in these areas of your life, as well…
- Our Hearts – So They Can Be “Set On Things Above”
Women often stress over the temporal – bills that must be paid, whether or not a man will come into our lives, if we’ll be able to have a child (or another child), what someone is saying about us, how our body looks, and so on. At times we are more concerned about what the scales say than what God says, or about our bank’s balance more than our life’s balance. Yet God instructs us in Colossians 3:1-2: “set your hearts on things above.” If our priorities were in heaven, not on this earth, we would not only be happier and healthier, but less financially drained and emotionally spent. Matthew 6:19-21 tells us not to “store up treasures here on earth where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven ….For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” It takes God’s touch to clear our hearts of what this world says is important and focus it on the things above.
- Our Minds – So They Are Transformed and Renewed
It’s easy for our thinking patterns to be just like those of anyone else in the world. Yet Scripture commands us: “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will know what God wants you to do, and you will know how good and pleasing and perfect his will really is” (Romans 12:2, NLT). Furthermore, God’s Word instructs: “fix your thoughts on what is true and honorable and right. Think about things that are pure and lovely and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise…and the God of peace will be with you” (Philippians 4:8-9, NLT). What mental anguish, worry and fear we would spare ourselves from if we would let God transform our minds and renew our thoughts to think as He would.
- Our Mouths – To Be Wholesome and Pleasing to God
Because women tend to be communicators, we can cause much damage with our mouths if we do not bring them under God’s control. I know this, firsthand, even when I truly mean well. Whether it is gossip, criticism or unkind remarks, our mouths can be instruments of righteousness or unrighteousness. In Ephesians 4:29 we are told to “not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up, according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” God’s touch on our lives can make us women – and moms — whose words heal and encourage, rather than distract and destroy.
- Our Emotions – To Be Calmed with the Peace of God
There are days when, hormonally or just circumstantially, I need God’s touch to calm my frazzled emotions and level out my life. Philippians 4:6-7 encourages me on days like those, with these words: “Don’t’ worry about anything, but pray about everything. With thankful hearts offer up your prayers and request to God. Then, because you belong to Christ Jesus, God will bless you with peace that no one can completely understand. And this peace will control the way you think and feel” (CEV). I so need God’s peace to control the way I think and feel so that I don’t lose control and become a woman on the edge. A woman who is controlled by God’s peace is not on the edge, but in the spacious place of His embrace.
As I seek God’s touch in those four areas of my life I find that I rarely feel like I’m “on the edge.” I , instead, feel that I can get through any task as a woman and mom. For instance, when you and I get frustrated in a relationship, we can go back to the principle of letting God transform and renew our minds to only think on whatever is pure, right, lovely, good, and so on. And when you and I are about to lose it over finances or something that takes us by surprise, we can remember to not be anxious about anything, but to pray about everything…maintaining a heart of thanksgiving for what we’ve been given. And when our hearts begin to desire something that we cannot attain, we can remember to set our hearts on things above.
Crave God’s touch on those areas of your life and you will find yourselves not on the edge of a meltdown, but in the spacious place of His embrace.
Cindi McMenamin, is a wife to Hugh, a mom to Dana, and a national speaker and author of more than a dozen books. She will lead you to a spacious place and help you experience the peace of God’s touch through her book, Women on the Edge. For more on her books and free resources to help you in your marriage, parenting, and individual walk with God, see her website: www.StrengthForTheSoul.com.