Do You Love Yourself?
By Meggan Larson
I asked myself this question the other day. It was basically a form of do I love myself right here right now, just as I am? If the rest of the weight never came off, if I was stuck in this jean size forever, if this was my body until I died, would I be okay with that? I think it’s a very important question because the answer is extremely insightful. So let me pose the question to you right here, right now.
Do you love yourself?
The reason the answer to this is important is that it’s very telling about how you are currently living your life. If you are unhappy with yourself and can barely stand to look in the mirror, then you are not really living. What I mean by that is this. You are always waiting for life to get better. You are believing the lie that life will be better on the other side of your weight loss. That when you fit into size 2 jeans that you’ll finally be able to be happy again.
The problem is that life is happening right now. It’s happening in front of you and all around you. Your kids will never again be the age they are right now. If you’re unwilling to squeeze into those snow pants to go sledding or on a frigid sleigh ride (cue my weekend plans) then you’ll miss it. If you hesitate to accept an invitation to dinner or coffee with friends because of your size, you are missing it.
You need to learn how to love yourself right NOW in this current body, at this current size without shaming yourself, blaming yourself, or beating yourself up. Because it’s not just you missing out on life: your husband is too. When you don’t want him to see you naked because your body is not the same as the one he first married, then you’re missing out. We as women need to do better and be better. And by that, I don’t mean eating right all the time and losing the weight. You need to lose the weight for sure, but it’s the weight of expectations, regrets, comparisons, and judgments that you mostly need to lose.
Love yourself here and now because it’s the only you that you have. You’re the only you that your husband married and you’re the only you that your kids call mommy. Love the you that is looking back in the mirror right now and let go of your own crushing expectations. Enjoy your life as it is now instead of waiting for the new you on the other side. When you do lose the weight (and you will) it will be so much sweeter because you’ll already be in love with yourself and it will be the cherry on top instead of the noose around your neck obsessively making sure you don’t gain a pound. It’s Valentine’s week and I hope that you show yourself the love you so freely give to others.
~ Meggan 🙂
p.s. As always I’d love to hear from you so if you have any questions or comments please comment below or email me at Meggan@thelaundrymoms.com
Meggan Larson is a wife, mom of three, and challenge overcomer! Being diagnosed with a rare form of cancer and undergoing aggressive chemotherapy when her second born child was only three months old, gave Meggan an expected twist to her life. Dealing with pregnancy weight gain and the debilitating effects of chemotherapy, Meggan’s weight soared to over 228 pounds. Feeling humiliated with no desire to socialize, Meggan was desperate for a change. Shortly after losing 20 pounds with the Trim Healthy Mama program, Meggan found out she was pregnant with baby number three, which ended in an emergency C-section and unexpected hysterectomy. Despite the challenges she faced, Meggan has just celebrated her one year “trimiversary”, and her success of releasing just over 60 pounds! Meggan is confident that her success on plan is “doable” for anyone looking to gain back their health and wanting to live a trim and healthy lifestyle!