Bounce Your Eyes
by Shauna Wallace
The Lord recently used a parenting lesson to parent me. Have you ever had that happen?
As my sister’s boys approached the age of noticing girls and the appeal of their bodies, she taught them a phrase that has always stuck with me: “Bounce your eyes.”
If you’re a mom raising a boy, you likely know boys are very visual, and guarding their eyes is an important aspect of parenting our sons toward purity. You also likely know exactly how impossible it is to shield their eyes from the bombardment of soft- and hard-core porn not only readily available but aggressively marketed in our culture, not just to our sons, but to our husbands, us and our daughters.
Being sexy is a cultural value flaunted before all of us at alarming frequency and saturation!
What are we to do?
Like my sister, when our kids’ eyes meet with something they know isn’t glorifying to God or His design for women’s bodies or sex as He designed it for marriage, we can teach and coach them to bounce their eyes. Certainly we can take measures to reduce the frequency and degree of images they encounter, such as placing boundaries and filters on what they watch and see on TV, in movies and on electronic devices, but what about when we’re driving down the road and they encounter the billboard for a “gentlemen’s club”? Or when we’re standing in line at the grocery store and the front cover of a magazine exploits a nearly naked women as if it’s perfectly natural? Or when they have their own cars and then jobs and then lives and we’re not there to point out the inappropriate? When they have to decide for themselves to bounce their own eyes?
This is where the Lord used the lesson to parent me.
On our annual beach vacation in January, I found myself staring down the women around me, deciding what about their body was better than mine and how much better I’d be if my body was like theirs. From teenagers with their cellulite-free firm bottoms and perky breasts to women older than me who somehow maintained the same thing! The longer I stared, the more I compared, and the greater my discontentment and insecurity!
That’s when the Lord said to me: “Shauna, bounce your eyes!”
I couldn’t kick all those tight bodied women off the beach, but I could intentionally divert my eyes when I encountered their g-string staring back at me when I looked up from my book!
We can’t get away from other people, what they wear, flaunt or do or the images on billboards, magazines and other forms of media, but whenever we encounter a visual stimulant that we immediately know isn’t glorifying God, it is entirely on us what we do at that point.
Will we linger or look away?
Let’s remember for ourselves and teach our children, too:
Staring breeds comparing,
which can quickly lead to despairing,
and lingering breeds lusting.
So I’m learning NOT to linger, to bounce my eyes, capture my thoughts and make both obedient to Jesus Christ, focusing my eyes on Him so He can bring me to the place where the thoughts of my heart and mind glorify to Him. Even when no one is looking.
An inspirational writer, teacher, and speaker, Shauna Wallace burns with passion to see women experience the fullness of God’s grace, faithfulness, peace, joy, protection, and provision by becoming wholly His. Finding hope and life in God’s word motivates her to help other women discover God’s power to transform lives.
Transparent and real, she opens her life and heart to encourage others. She and her husband, James, serve their church, community, and clients of their custom home building business. As a homeschooling stay-at-home mother of four, Shauna treasures the privilege of being James’ helpmate and training her children in the ways of the Lord. Check Out Shauna’s Blog Here!
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[ii] “Greek Lexicon :: G1343 (NKJV).” Blue Letter Bible. Web. 9 Jan, 2016. <http://www.blueletterbible.orghttps://www.blueletterbible.org/lang/lexicon/lexicon.cfm>.
[iii] “Greek Lexicon :: G2513 (NKJV).” Blue Letter Bible. Web. 14 Jan, 2016. <http://www.blueletterbible.orghttps://www.blueletterbible.org/lang/lexicon/lexicon.cfm>.