10 Things I Want My Daughter to Know
By Cindi McMenamin
It seemed like just yesterday you were holding her in your arms. And before you know it she’ll be graduating from high school – or college – and going off to start a life of her own.
When my daughter, Dana, graduated from college a few years ago, I was moved by the thought that she was at the beginning of a life journey that I am now more than half way through. And I got to thinking about what I wish I knew when I was 22 and ready to face the world.
So I put together a list of the 10 things I want my daughter to know. (These are also 10 things you can begin incorporating into your life now if they aren’t there already):
1. People will come and go in our lives, but the One who loves us most will never leave (Hebrews 13:5). Therefore, His opinion matters more than anyone else’s.
2. The things that seemed SO important to us in our teens and 20s we can barely remember in our 40s. Think long-term, not short-term.
3. Life passes quickly, so don’t waste time worrying about what you can’t control. The Bible tells us in Philippians 4:6: “Don’t worry about anything; instead pray about everything.…”
4. God is the Only One who satisfies, so don’t ever look to a man to do for you what only God can. There’s a reason He tells us in Isaiah 54:5 “For your Husband is your Maker, the Lord God of hosts….”
5. Every man you date is a potential life partner. So whether or not he’s a mature follower of Christ, or doesn’t know Christ IS a huge deal. (Scripture tells us in 2 Corinthians 6:14 not to be “bound together” with unbelievers. That doesn’t just apply to marriage. I know many a wife who wishes it was more important to her, during her dating years, that her boyfriend be a strong Christian.)
6. We are loved immensely by our Creator and given the awesome privilege of serving our Savior. So don’t look for validation in anything or anyone else. (For a pick-me-up, take Ephesians 2:10 to heart: “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.”)
7. The things we allow our eyes to see, our ears to hear, and our minds to process have a way of sticking with us far longer than we had imagined. So choose carefully what you expose yourself to. (Romans 12:2 instructs us to “not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind….” That renewal of the mind happens when we clear it of the junk this world bombards us with.)
8. The younger you are, the sharper your mind and memory. So store as much as you can of God’s Word in your mind and heart now — so you can retrieve more later.
9. The wise financial habits you develop now will be a safeguard for you as you get older.
10. Purity is in rare commodity. Guard it with your life. (And regardless of what the tabloids say, righteousness will never go out of style.)
What are the timeless truths you want to instill in your daughter’s heart and mind? It’s never too early –or too late.
Cindi McMenamin is a national women’s conference speaker and author of several books, including When Women Walk Alone, (more than 125,000 copies sold), When a Woman Inspires Her Husband, When a Mom Inspires Her Daughter, and her most recent, 10 Secrets to Becoming a Worry-Free Mom. For more on her ministry, books, and resources to strengthen your walk with God and your relationships, see her website: www.StrengthForTheSoul.com.
